ANGER EVALUATION  

   A Professional Anger Evaluation You Can Take In The Privacy Of Your Own Home    

On the other hand, we can’t lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us such as laws, social rules, co workers or family members.  Common sense places a limit on how far anger can take us.

Anger is an emotional state that can very in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Along with the emotional state anger is accompanied by physiological changes such as a rise in blood pressure and heart rate, increase in energy hormones; adrenaline and nor adrenaline.

Anger is a secondary emotion and is often a cover up for the primary emotions of sadness, fear, hurt and shame.  

People use a variety of conscious and unconscious processes to deal with angry feelings. The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive—not aggressive—manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others. Being assertive doesn't mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others.

Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn't allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.

Unexpressed anger can create other problems. It can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive behavior (getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on) or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile. People who are constantly putting others down, criticizing everything, and making cynical comments haven't learned how to constructively express their anger.

The Staxi-2 is a valuable tool in helping you to determine how you process your angry feelings. How do you express your anger? The Staxi-2 will tell you how you cope with your anger.

If you feel as though your anger is taking over your life, help is available to you wherever you live. You might consider an online anger management program such as http://angermanagementonline.com.  You might consider looking through your local yellow pages under Counseling, Therapy, Marriage and Family Therapy, Psychotherapy.  Interview the therapist/counselor over the phone.  Ask if they have experience with anger management or if they could suggest someone to you that does.  Look for a group anger management meeting.  If you are serious about getting help there are many places that offer quality programs.  Start your anger management quest today. 

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